Before you read the rest of this entry, it would be best if you watch the video: The Problem With Millennials! Through the eyes of a millennial. It’s where I based this whole entry from, and watching it will help you understand more.
As you can see, the girl in the video (let’s call her…Mae) is a millennial bashing fellow millennials about this so-called Generation Y. What have you heard, we’re lazy? Entitled? It sucked? Would you agree with Mae, or would you click on the comments section and go against her point?
I’d like to repeat that this entry is based on Mae’s video, but will not be mainly talking about the points she evaluated. I found this video in YouTube and read through the top comments. My points will be taken from the reactions of the video as a way of discussing her claims and overall about us—the millennials. (The link of the video will be on the comments section.)
Before we get to the main point, let’s clarify the definition of what millennials really are. Many people gave different meanings to this word, but are closely similar. Some say 1994 and above, some say from 1980s to 2000s, but let’s stick to one. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, millennials are people born in the 1980s and 1990s. If that’s the case, the youngest millennials as of this year would be at the age of 18 and the eldest would be at 37. Are you a millennial? Have you heard of the usual impressions of our generation?
Even though we’re mainly talking about millennials, let’s keep in mind that this impressions and accusations are not exclusive for us. We know that people below 18 and above 37 can be manner-less and disrespectful, but let’s face it, we’re generally the most observed doing such things.
Now let’s get into it.
There was this comment saying something similar like this (rephrased): “I don’t understand. She’s saying something about people posting their opinions on Facebook and she’s taking a video of herself and posted it on social media. Like, how is that different?”
While it was not mentioned, it’s easy to say that the commenter (I’ll use ‘he’) is saying that Mae is a hypocrite. He believed that there is no problem about expressing people’s thoughts through social media, as what Mae is obviously doing. What could be the problem? The status on Facebook clearly states “What’s on your mind?” and inviting you to express your thoughts.
Here’s the thing. There really is nothing wrong about posting a status on Facebook—or any other social media, through status, video, etc.—and expressing what we believe in for the world to hear. Mae’s even doing the same thing, right? Is that a problem? Obviously, no.
So what is the problem?
“Our idea of standing up for what we believe in means going up on Facebook and posting in status with your opinion.” This was the statement Mae mentioned that had affected a few people—probably mostly millennials, if not all. Expressing what we believe in is not wrong, the commenter is right about that.
But, honestly, he’s refuting her wrongly too.
For one thing, Mae’s video is very generalized, and a lot of people are actually disturbed by that fact and tried refuting her statements that likely does not make sense. Not only that Mae’s statements were generally true, but additionally, people are losing track of common sense and are going against her without looking at different angles. In his point (the commenter), he’s counterattacking her by that statement alone and is ignorant of what she really meant.
It’s like a spectrum—whatever you say could mean the lighter part of the spectrum or darker part of the spectrum, or anywhere else in between. In other words, Mae certainly didn’t mean that the overall expressing-beliefs-on-Facebook is wrong. Her video is talking about why millennials suck. Not all things expressed on Facebook are free of black marks. There certainly are opinions without clear reasons and are based solely on what they feel is right (and what we feel deceives us often, remember that) and what they want—selfish, narcissistic ones.
Here’s an example (‘cause I heard you all love them):
Gosh I hate how they sent me to the office for saying something true. I mean it’s not my fault everyone laughed, she really did have rabbit teeth. Why is giving a carrot an offense? There wouldn’t really have any problems if she went along and laughed with it instead of crying.
That’s gotta be a post of a big jerk, right? Now tell me if you’ve seen no problem in this kind of expressive post.
With that being said, it’s still downright obvious that I don’t have evidences to prove that this is what she actually meant. But even Mae is aware that there are people outside of her evaluations. She is generalizing, and it’s a problem that people are misunderstanding that.
Go ahead and refute me with Merriam-Webster about generalizing. The said dictionary did say that generalizing is to state an opinion about a larger group that is based on a smaller number of people or things within that group. But in my controversial opinion about this word, when we generalize, yes there is an opinion (or two) towards a large group of people based on its subgroups, but it is still common sense that there are others that would not fit the opinion’s attack. It’s nothing different when we say that “children are playful” and knowing that there are rare ones who are clingy to their mother’s legs. That’s how we generalize—we consider a certain group while knowing too well that there are few numbers of exemptions.
Another comment went on something like this (rephrased): “Don’t forget about the previous generation who ruined our current generation. It’s their fault kids today are the way they are.”
It’s about time I include Simon Sinek, who also said something similar concerning poor parental strategies that made millennials like…that. In a YouTube video (Simon Sinek on Millennial and Internet Addiction), Sinek considered the parents as a factor of this infamous current generation—aside from technologies, impatience, and environment. And he believed that we have no fault at all. Well, it’s true. Raising children wrongly doesn’t make them aware of their wrong behaviors. And as long as these parents don’t know the proper way of parental strategies children will live their lives thinking there’s nothing wrong.
That would be a disaster.
But here’s one thing we have: awareness. And by the fact that children are also growing, it’s impossible that there is no one person pointing out their wrong-doings. And if you’re aware of your parent’s poor parental strategies, you’re no longer innocent.
If we are actually aware that our parents raised us wrong, that the elders influenced us wrong, then we’re obviously aware that there’s something wrong with us. It’s just a first step, but if we’re ignoring that, we have no right to blame others because we’re as guilty as anyone. We’re aware of it, so we should do something about it. And, really, there is nothing wrong of looking for what is right. That could be the best thing you’re looking for, believe me.
If you scroll down on the video’s comments section, you may observe that people agreeing are mostly—and assumingly—adults. Surely, that implies something. What do you think? Why are adults bound to agree with Mae while millennials are very likely to disagree?
I believe it’s another millennial problem. Aside from being innocent of their wrong-doings and the narrow-mindedness, teenagers today either believe they’re right or believe that they’re doing nothing wrong (yes, there’s a difference). And aside from Sinek’s four factors, there’s also majority influence. “Everybody is doing it, why shouldn’t I?” Sounds familiar? Sinek stated in his video that teenagers are bound to want the approval of fellow peers than from the immediate family. And it usually comes to the point of disobedience, disrespect, lack of manners, or in worst cases, rebellion.
We can go ahead and blame the previous generation for what we are today but we can’t break the fact that they lived longer to know better. They’ve seen better. And besides, we’re still generalizing. So it’s not valid for us to say that we shouldn’t follow our elders because it’s their fault we’re like this. They know better. We just think we know better. When an elder scold you for doing something, I suggest you consider it very carefully and contemplate. They don’t shout at us for arriving home so late for no reason. Of course, there really are parents that do not completely care about anything other than alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, and abusing. But that’s a different story.
I know it’s quite offensive that we’re seen this way, but can we blame them? We’ve become impatient, lazy, disrespectful and rebellious. It’s what they’ve seen and it’s what we’re showing. The elders may be one of the factors, but if we keep pointing the blame at them and pretend we didn’t do anything wrong, then that’s a big point proven just how immature we are—whether we’re 18 or 37. You are aware. Playing innocent will just prove the impressions of us right.
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This discussion is not done yet. Next entry: Millennials – What is wrong with his comment? Coming soon.